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SELF-CONFIDENCE
How Can You Escape the Catch-22 of Self-Confidence?
An unexpected way to break the cycle
It seems impossible to be successful without some degree of confidence. But, how can you be confident without achieving some degree of success?
It’s a chicken and egg dilemma. When you see a successful, confident person, what came first? The self-confidence or the success?
I remember going to school with someone who seemingly had it all. They were smart, wealthy, attractive, gifted athletically, and had tons of friends.
But, they also were gifted with a series of disastrous relationships. One failed after another. Each time, the partner walked all over them and treated them like crap.
I found it baffling. We were talking about the latest crash and burn one day, and I said, “Why do you put up with that? You’re a catch. You don’t need to put up with that.”
As the conversation unfolded, it became clear to me that they felt unworthy of love and a good relationship. They completely lacked the self-confidence I assumed they had, and falsely projected. They were the one who felt lucky that someone would go out with them.
I had already experienced my fair share of massive failures in school, work, and…
